Boundaries

Savor, observe, expand, ground, balance, longing, truth, teacher,

friend, authenticity, spirit, belonging, change, emotions, healing, space, grace,

acceptance, action, presence, awareness, faith, peace, internal, priority, seen,

responsibility, respect, influence, values, roots.

My Dad walking ahead of me, & my heart echoing my GPS..."Recalculating".

Emotional send-offs, hugs, and aches of separation.

Feelings of longing to stay, slightly distracted

by activity, travel, people watching, seatmates, turbulence and a

readiness to get home.

Some shifting taking place. Uncertainty, voids, and struggle,

replaced with faith, love, and stillness.

Thoughts on moving forward, responsibility, direction, 

and assessment, and then onto thoughts about boundaries.

Did you know that 80 % of the population has never learned about boundaries?

I for one, never got the memo.

I learned manners, how to be respectful, and to how to survive and defend,

 but if there was much said about boundaries....I missed it.

Boundaries came to my attention as a tool a few years ago.

 During a trip back home, my kiddo purchased a book

as a gift for his sister-friend.

He told me I might like it too, and to check it out.

I didn't want to thumb through the pages,

however I read the covers, and ordered it when I returned home.

With that little backstory, 

I decided to delve into the-book-of-which-I-speak again.

3rd. time. 

As with anything...it takes practice and refreshing

myself on the information.

I'm passing on some bits as I go.

If life feels wonky, Boundaries are a good place to start.

It's a good tool that can help in making choices 

through change. 

And a guide to assist in finding direction.

For starters, I will share a page from "The Boundary Boss."

(the book of which I speak) on rights.

"Boundary Boss Bill Of Rights"

"❤ You have the right to say no (or yes) to others without feeling guilty.

❤ You have the right to make mistakes, to course correct, or change your mind.

❤ You have the right to negotiate for your preferences, desires and needs.

❤ You have the right to express and honor all of your feelings, if you so choose.

❤ You have the right to voice your own opinion even if others disagree.

❤ You have the right to be treated with respect, consideration, and care.

❤ You have the right to determine who has the privilege of being in your life.

❤ You have the right to communicate your boundaries, limits, and deal-breakers.

❤ You have the right to prioritize your self-care without feeling selfish.

❤ You have the right to talk true, be seen, and live free."

~The Boundary Boss~

The relationship we have with ourself is the most important.

We are responsible for our own happiness.

Be well...

xoxo

💕

"Love yourself enough to set boundaries.

Your time and energy are precious.

You get to choose how you use it.

You teach people how to treat you

by deciding what you will and won't accept."

" Love yourself first and everything else falls into line.

You really have to love yourself to get anything

done in this world."

~Lucille Ball~